Friday, September 18, 2009

Fighting back is what I've discovered I do best.


I know you've been there. Picked on, stomped on, beaten, bruised, and bullied until you just don't think you can take anymore. Or maybe it was you who was the bully and the instigator. Most bullies are just like us and have very little self-esteem, so putting down others makes them feel a little better about themselves.

But then you will hit a certain point when you say, "I've had enough. I'm tired of being walked all over. I'm tired of being taken for granted." Stand up for yourself. Make them believe that you're not going to take it anymore. I know that as a young adolesent in middle school, my group of friends and I were not only the bullies, but also the bullied. We would gang up against each other to the point of making each other cry uncontrollably. We were mean and vicious. If one of us was mad at the other, then the whole group would be mad at that person. I've been shoved into lockers, terrorized through the Internet, and called every horrible name in the book, including ugly, fat, whore, slut, bitch, and have been told to "rot in hell."And this doesn't just happen in school, it happens in the real world, too. I know this because it's happened to me, even being graduated from high school for three years now.

How can we treat others this way? What gives us the right? Who told us that we could criticize and abuse our fellow human beings? We're not perfect, so why should we expect everyone else to be?

Advice of the day: FIGHT BACK.

Get mad. Throw a fit. Show that you're the stronger one. Don't be afraid to stand tall. You deserve to. But never, ever sink to their level. Don't throw nasty words back. Don't physically fight them. Most importantly, never show them that they've gotten under your skin.

One of my favorite quotes (childish, but still inspirational) to live by: "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." And another: "Don't worry if people are talking behind your back. It just means that you're ahead of them."

Songs of the day: Christina Aguilera "Fighter" and Limp Bizkit "Break Stuff"


john said...

if they talk behind your back, it shows they are man enough to you as your equal.
Cool thought you have. If only the people would stop getting bullied by their leaders.

Political Blog said...

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can still hurt me. I think its really positive of you see why people are so stupid, but when people talk behind my back or say things about me, it does upset me...maybe I'm too sensitive.

Iron_criterion said...

This is exactly why I took up karate...

lifechick said...

Standing up for yourself is important. When you don't, you give the bully the impression that you're "weak", and bullies love to pick on what they perceive to be the weakest individuals.

Dayne Gingrich said...

I was a bully for a short time when I was in 7th grade. I picked on a kid who moved to town, and of course didn't know anyone. I knew a lot of people, and thought I'd show off.

Welp... that day quickly ended when he "fought back," and kicked the !@!! out of me on the bus home from schoo. I strangely felt instant respect for him, became his friend, and we were friends for many years.

Along the lines of "fighting back," those words carry a different meaning to me now. When I was in my 20's, they meant fight back with words, physically, or any type of payback.

Now, fighting back means to "rise above." I rise above quietly, maturely, and always with dignity. 'They' will never enjoy the satisfaction of seeing me upset. My major goal: Stop getting upset w/ them in the first place. Tough, yes... impossible, absolutely not!

In my line of work, there's way too many egos flying, creating this "eat-or-get eaten" way of thinking. My every day is learning (and teaching) how to avoid... and rise above!

Great post!!!!! (too bad I didn't have much to say on the topic).

La Jenno said...

I've learned slowly over time that all the bullies that used to be in my life were all wrong.

I have worth.
I am loved.
I do belong.

Thank you for sharing this with us :)

Armando said...

Standing up for you is important. But don't, ever give up; no obstacle is bigger than you. The most important of all, I think is to never loose your hope.

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